Women Infidelity: More Damaging Than Men?

     It has always started as the old adage that “boys will be boys,” If somebody’s cheating in a committed relationship, it’s usually quickly assumed to be the man who’s doing the deed. However, this age, although I’m a woman too, I do not deny the fact that… “Hey! Women cheat too! and beware!! When they do, it’s often far more damaging to the relationship.

     While men in the other hand may simply cheat because they’re put in a situation where they can get easy sex and may have lowered inhibitions, women cheat for a new chance of love, to feel emotionally cherished, or because they’re convinced the relationship is finally over. They cheat with their heart, and because of that, female infidelity is far harder to recover from. Beware of that 'Cheating Heart'...

CNN Health reports:

In a committed relationship nothing hurts more, or is harder to recover from, than infidelity, and this is even truer when it’s the female partner who’s been doing the cheating.  In recent years I’ve noticed a precipitous rise in the number of men who have been betrayed by adultery, and while there’s an overall consensus among professionals that female infidelity is on the rise, the trend doesn’t garner nearly as much attention as male infidelity  That’s surprising, because female infidelity is often much more damaging to a marriage. Don’t get me wrong: Male cheating is definitely harmful. But when a woman fools around, it’s often the death knell to a couple’s relationship.

It’s often said that men cheat for sex, while women cheat for love, the theory being that men can more easily compartmentalize sex and emotion, while women typically need to experience an emotional connection to a person before feeling sexual desire. Without those pesky emotions to stand in the way of a potential mistake, a guy is much more likely to get himself into trouble (especially if alcohol is involved and inhibitions are down) or to get involved with someone for whom he has no feelings.

My Tips a.k.a. Cassie’s Tips: For any couple especially those who has been together for quite a period of time, either you’ve been dating for couple of years, engage to be married or has been married for years… Always communicate with your partner. Have crystal clear conversations; make sure your partner understood you at the end of the conversation.

There are so many things that people can do together to strengthen the bond. Men, please take care of your woman’s hearts. Always know that we are in need for emotional cares. Husbands, ask yourself, when was the last time you said something really nice to your wives (something about her) that makes her smile from her heart?

Most of the time, all that a woman wants is just for you to know that she’s there, she cares and she will always be there for you. It’s not hard to cherish our emotion needs. Back to basic, sometimes smallest gestures means abundance.

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The Path to Happiness

It seems like most of the people I know are happy—sometimes. I know very few people who claim to be happy all the time. Those who are always happy are often criticized for not paying attention to the world. There’s sickness and poverty and war. How can anyone be happy with all of the world’s problems? And everyone has his or her own problems, too.

Is real happiness only an illusion, something that we can grasp at for a few moment but never really hold? I don’t think so.

It is possible to be both aware and happy. So why are so many people unhappy? I think there is one reason for this. It’s their inability to accept a simple truth:

To be happy, all we have to do is accept the reality of things. Does this mean that to be happy we need to simply accept our lot in life and not work to change things? Absolutely not! What it means is that we can accept that things are as they are and we can work to make things even better. Let me give you some practical examples.

1. Imagine you are an employer looking to hire a new person. Two people have all the qualification for the job. Both are unemployed and for both, things are tough. Who would you hire: The person who is happy about being alive, happy about having an opportunity to get a job and happy about using her skills for you, or someone who is unhappy, angry and surly over his situation? You’d hire the happy person, of course.

2. Your boyfriend is late for your date. Would you have a better time with him if you’re happy that he’s there or if you’re angry that he’s late? Of course you’d both have a better time if you’re happy.

3. You see a co-worker treated unfairly at work. You can get angry and complain or you can be happy to suggest a system that can result in more fairness for everyone. The second way is far more effective.

Being angry, filled with stress, and feeling unhappy has been shown to negatively affect the body, mind, and spirit. Feeling happy and being filled with good cheer has a positive effect. The “bottom line” is that happier is better.

There are some things you can do to learn to live a happy life. Laugh every day. Find something to have a big belly laugh about every day. It can really help. Here are some suggestions:

1.      Communicate your needs. Some people get angry when someone doesn’t do something even though they didn’t tell that person what is desired. Don’t expect your children, friends, family, lover or spouse to do something—tell them. If you don’t tell them they won’t know.

2.      Accept people as they are. Don’t try to change people into something they aren’t. If you want them to do something differently, let them know what you want and need. Give them the opportunity to do things that will please you.

3.      Treat yourself well! Be kind to yourself. You deserve it. Give yourself a treat from time to time. Be as accepting of yourself as you are of others.

4.      Work for change with love. Don’t try to change something you feel is unfair because you hate the unfairness. Work for change because you love what can be.

5.      Share your smiles. People smile and are happy with people who give smiles. However, it’s important to really mean it when you smile. People instinctively know when you’re honest.

6.      Don’t expect instant change. People—including you—take time to change. Compliment people when they change in ways you’ve told them you’d like. Just laugh it off if they don’t.

Whether you’re often angry and unhappy or usually a happy person, it’s not a long distance to being happy every day. If you want it, you can have it. It’s just about accepting things the right way.

The Path to Happiness

It seems like most of the people I know are happy—sometimes. I know very few people who claim to be happy all the time. Those who are always happy are often criticized for not paying attention to the world. There’s sickness and poverty and war. How can anyone be happy with all of the world’s problems? And everyone has his or her own problems, too.

Is real happiness only an illusion, something that we can grasp at for a few moment but never really hold? I don’t think so.

It is possible to be both aware and happy. So why are so many people unhappy? I think there is one reason for this. It’s their inability to accept a simple truth:

To be happy, all we have to do is accept the reality of things. Does this mean that to be happy we need to simply accept our lot in life and not work to change things? Absolutely not! What it means is that we can accept that things are as they are and we can work to make things even better. Let me give you some practical examples.

1. Imagine you are an employer looking to hire a new person. Two people have all the qualification for the job. Both are unemployed and for both, things are tough. Who would you hire: The person who is happy about being alive, happy about having an opportunity to get a job and happy about using her skills for you, or someone who is unhappy, angry and surly over his situation? You’d hire the happy person, of course.

2. Your boyfriend is late for your date. Would you have a better time with him if you’re happy that he’s there or if you’re angry that he’s late? Of course you’d both have a better time if you’re happy.

3. You see a co-worker treated unfairly at work. You can get angry and complain or you can be happy to suggest a system that can result in more fairness for everyone. The second way is far more effective.

Being angry, filled with stress, and feeling unhappy has been shown to negatively affect the body, mind, and spirit. Feeling happy and being filled with good cheer has a positive effect. The “bottom line” is that happier is better.

There are some things you can do to learn to live a happy life. Laugh every day. Find something to have a big belly laugh about every day. It can really help. Here are some suggestions:

1.      Communicate your needs. Some people get angry when someone doesn’t do something even though they didn’t tell that person what is desired. Don’t expect your children, friends, family, lover or spouse to do something—tell them. If you don’t tell them they won’t know.

2.      Accept people as they are. Don’t try to change people into something they aren’t. If you want them to do something differently, let them know what you want and need. Give them the opportunity to do things that will please you.

3.      Treat yourself well! Be kind to yourself. You deserve it. Give yourself a treat from time to time. Be as accepting of yourself as you are of others.

4.      Work for change with love. Don’t try to change something you feel is unfair because you hate the unfairness. Work for change because you love what can be.

5.      Share your smiles. People smile and are happy with people who give smiles. However, it’s important to really mean it when you smile. People instinctively know when you’re honest.

6.      Don’t expect instant change. People—including you—take time to change. Compliment people when they change in ways you’ve told them you’d like. Just laugh it off if they don’t.

Whether you’re often angry and unhappy or usually a happy person, it’s not a long distance to being happy every day. If you want it, you can have it. It’s just about accepting things the right way.

Depression

At times everyone feels blue. We all have days when we do not want to get out of bed or cannot shake the feeling of sadness. Depression, however, goes beyond this.

What is Depression?

Depression is an illness which is common but often misunderstood. It can occur without people realizing that they have it. Many people ignore the signs of depression, and some cope with it by abusing alcohol and/or drugs. Many perceive depression as an illness that carries with it such fear and shame that it prevents them from asking for help. It is not a personal weakness; it is an illness that can be for the most part successfully treated.

What Causes Depression?

No one knows exactly what causes depression. Several factors, alone or combined, may be at work. For some, an obvious stress may bring on depression but for others, depression may occur without an apparent reason. Researchers have also found that some people with depression have a chemical imbalance.

Signs of Depression

Depression can occur without people knowing that they have it. Many people ignore the signs of depression. When a depressed mood persists for several weeks, deepens and eventually starts interfering with work and social life it becomes an illness, or clinical depression.

Some signs of Depression are:

·         Disturbed thinking

·         Feelings of sadness or irritability

·         Loss of interest or pleasure in activates once enjoyed

·         Changes in weight or appetite

·         Changes in sleeping patterns

·         Feelings of guilt, hopelessness or worthlessness

·         Inability to concentrate, remember things or make decisions

·         Fatigue or loss of energy – withdrawal

·         Restlessness or decreased activity noticed by others

·         Complaints or physical aches and pains for which no medical causes can be found

·         Thoughts of suicide or death

·         Feeling overwhelmed

·         Depression, if not treated, can last many months or years

P/S: Always check yourself and people around you for the sign of depression. Get professional help if you sense that you’re feeling abnormal depressed. Prolong depression without treatment can be extremely harmful.

Spiritual Health

Where are you in your spiritual life? Take a moment to reflect… Do you feel a sense of worth, hope, purpose, commitment or peace? Do you have a positive outlook on life? Or do you experience feelings of emptiness, anxiety, hopelessness, apathy or conflict? These may be signs of spiritual poverty in your life and may be the reason for unhappiness or dissatisfaction.

Spirituality is unique to each individual. Our spirit usually refers to the deepest part of us, the part that let us make meaning of our world. Our spirit provides us with the revealing sense of who we are, why we are here and what is our purpose for living. It is that innermost part of us that allows gaining strength and hope.

Spiritual wellness is always something that we do not think much of, yet its impact on our life is unavoidable. The basis of spirituality is discovering a sense of meaningfulness in life and coming to know that we have a purpose to fulfil. For some, spirituality may be connected with traditional religions such as Christianity, Hinduism or Buddhism. For others, it may mean growing in your personal relationships with others, or through being at peace with nature.

Many wellness behaviours can benefit our spiritual health. Such behaviours include feeling connected with others, feeling as part of a community, volunteering, having an optimistic attitude, contributing to society and our own self with love and care.

Improving Our Spiritual Health

Here are some ways to help improve your spiritual health:

• Be quiet. Take time for yourself every day, even if it's just the moment before you go to sleep, or when you're driving home.
• Be open. Spiritual experiences can happen anywhere at any time.
• Practice being non-judgmental and having an open mind
• Be receptive to pain or times of sorrow. It is often in these times when we discover how spirituality can help us cope.
• Practice forgiveness
• Pray, meditate or worship
• Live joyfully
• Allow yourself to believe in things that aren't easily explainable

Love Unconditionally

When we try too hard to categorize love to make it fit in some “proper” space, it finds other ways to issue forth, tearing away the true fabric of our lives. We cannot force someone to change their emotions for our own benefit. All we will get from that is attempted repression and future resentment. So what I’m saying is: Allow yourself to experience what it is to love someone without all the demands and conditions. Ironically, to love without condition is what all of us says we want but little do we realize the sacrifice that actually entails. Technically it means freeing your love ones to live and love as he or she chooses.

As a couple in loves, we can have a real raw love affair–coming together to dissolve in the molten flow of our love heat. Then together go on to love others especially the needy. Indeed, if you let convention go and love without restriction, you might be very surprised where it takes you in the end. Please enjoy and feel the love. Never tempt to force love...