“Top Mistakes GUYS Make With Women & How to Solve It”
MISTAKE 1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”
Have you ever noticed that the real attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys?
Of course you have. I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in seems to be ‘nice guy’.
It makes us wonder what's going on. It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you. I know this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT. Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To Convince Her To Like You
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently. Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". Think about it. If a woman doesn't feel for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? But we all do it. When a woman just isn't interested, you guys try to beg, plead, chase, and do your best to change her mind. A total bad idea!! This will never work.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her for Approval or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".
Another PATHETIC idea!!
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER!
Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you but if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...
MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?
If you've experienced it… Well, guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this happens... That's right, I said NATURAL. When you do these things, you send a clear message: "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right; I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her
Oh man… This is very annoying. I’ve gone through it so many times until I’ve lost count of it. It’s another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women! They share how they "feel" too early on.
Attractive women are rare. And they get a LOT of attention from men. Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME.
An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translates into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what? Attractive women have usually met a LOT of men. That's right. They have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect. And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" or even worst “I think I have fallen in love with you” after just one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves. Don't do it. Lean back. Relax. There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman. But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how...
MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, no doubt that there are some women who only interested in these things but MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet... And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome. Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission. Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women. Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea...
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women
Now I'm going to blow your mind... A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking. Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. I really mean ten TIMES.
I know it might be hard to believe.
For example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it. And if you know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she will never help or give you any clue!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating... Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her... everything.
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it. It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the next level.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all. This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want. I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, don’t worry. Many guys have been there. In fact many have become fed up with the fact that they don't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women they are really attracted to.
I know it frustrates the hell out of you. Learn this and you can soon approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. You can date models, actresses, and nice, normal, girls next door as well.
It will be a very rewarding experience. Go and get help if you think you really need it ok.
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Keeping Your Conversation Interesting from the First Meeting
Whenever men seem to get to the point in a conversation with a woman where it reaches an awkward silence – something that anyone who has time in the dating world knows, happens quite often – they always resort to the same style of conversation: Rapid-fire interrogation. These quick questions about the woman’s life such as “What school did you go to?”, “Where are you from?”, “What do you do?” never lead anywhere, usually causing the woman to be bored and looking for the next topic of conversation.
Instead of falling into that trap when talking to women, here are some different conversation topics I suggest which you can use to keep the awkward silences to a minimum while keeping the excitement of the conversation to a maximum. Learn from the expert.
1. Interesting Current Issue
If you need a conversation placeholder – something to keep the conversation from stumbling into an awkward silence without resorting to that interrogation mode – then feel free to discuss about the various interesting things that are going on at the time. But make sure not to stay on this topic too long, or she will quickly become bored with it and also with you.
2. Speak your passions
More than anything else, pushing a conversation topic in the direction of your own passion is the best way to keep a conversation going. Instead of thinking too much about trying to maintain the conversation, by talking about your own passions you can just begin to have fun and show your excitement about the topic at hand. This will not only show your own intelligence – since you’re talking about your passion, you’ll automatically know about it – but also give the woman a glimpse into your own emotion and excitement. Women are always looking for this in a man. In the same way, if the woman begins talking about her own passion, ask her about it even if it’s not your own passion. This will allow her to feel excited while talking to you (something that is never a bad thing) and give her a chance to talk about herself, offering clues as to her personality that you can come back to later on in the conversation.
3. Observe your surroundings
Sometimes conversation can get really good when we talk to a person we don’t even know at a bar especially if that person observing the surrounding people and start making stories about everyone. This does not give us the right to say nasty things or make a fool of someone else but this will show your creative side and also allow you to get a grasp of a woman sense of humor, something that will help with future conversations later on through the evening. Keep in mind that most women like funny guys.
4. Your youth
Childhood is a time that stays with everyone forever and something we all can relate to, so speaking about your own experiences at a child not only allows her a window into your own soul, but also gives her a chance to relate with some of her own experiences. Feel free to go down this path of reminiscing to open up the topic of conversation.
5. Travel talk
While everyone loves to talk about travel, the important thing to keep in mind here is to get her to talk about travel, not you. You don’t want to look like you’re showing off or some off as someone trying too hard. Instead, use this as an opportunity to learn more about her beliefs, feelings, cultural awareness, etc.
6. Self-analysis
When talking about anything, whether it is your passions or your childhood, it is important to shade any story in a way where you “learn something from it”. This will once again give you an opportunity to show your depth of thought while also opening up various streams of conversation topics by adding an extra layer of subject matter to the conversation at hand.
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Here are Some Quick Fashion tips for Men:
1) Fit is King – The most dramatic improvement you can make in your style is to make sure everything fits. Most guys wear clothes that are too large. Make sure everything you wear is almost hugging the curves of your body - without being tight. Bad fit is an epidemic, cure yourself.
2) Keep it simple – You want a wardrobe that looks great on you but you don’t want to overdo it. For example, don’t wear more than three pieces of jewellery or more than three colours. Don’t dress like a rock star unless you’re in a band or performing for a show. If you want to be flashy, a simpler but stylish look would be sporting a black striped dress shirt with a white blazer, a dark pair of jeans, a white belt, and your favourite pair of shoes. You could also add a flashy watch or a simple accessory like an interesting necklace, but nothing more than that.
3) Change the way you see casual - casual doesn’t have to be boring. Have fun with collared shirts, or take some inspiration from those who approach casual a bit differently.
4) Pay attention to your supporting pieces - Some sweaters are lean and others are big and chunky. The first rule of thumb is that your top and bottom halves need to match. If you’re wearing a big, chunky, rugged fisherman knit sweater, your bottom needs to be rugged, too. Don’t wear a fisherman’s sweater with a beautiful silk-and-wool suit pant. Instead, wear it with something as casual as cargoes or jeans, or dress it up with a Harris tweed blazer.
5) Never go shopping alone – You can never really trust the sales people because they usually work for commission. Read about shopping on a budget.
6) Stay at least a Notch above - Don’t overdo it to a fault, but still take some risks. It’s always better to be a little bit overdressed than underdressed in a situation. All you have to do is think about where and who you’re going to be with and just step it up one notch. But make sure you’re not better dressed than someone who is more important in a certain setting or celebration, like your boss or the birthday boy.
7) Never underestimate the power of details – The last thing on is usually the first thing noticed. So mind the details instead of throwing together the main parts of your outfit. “Details” can include a scarf, a subtle pocket square; to the way you tie your tie knot.
8) Invest in a good pair of shoes – If it’s one thing that women will notice, it’s your shoes. Especially how clean they are. It’s easy to wash and press the rest of your clothes to keep them looking new, but most guys disregard their shoes. Show you’re a man of taste by getting a nice pair of shoes and keeping them in pristine condition. It’s the fastest way to showing others that you take good care of yourself.
9) Fashion Tees with logos – When you’re going around with a big logo on your shirt, you risk looking like a walking billboard.
10) Disregard trends – You shouldn’t wear something just because it’s “in” right now. Always build a versatile and timeless (or classic) wardrobe first, and then bring in your own twists with some of the new stuff. This one tip will save you so much money.
11) Stay away from clogs and Crocs - They look good on no grown men. Enough said.
12) An undershirt is an undershirt - An undershirt is meant to be worn underneath your dress shirt or sweater to absorb the sweat, dirt, and body oils that we all inevitable secrete. This way you might be able to get away with not having to launder the shirt every time you wear it, and you shirt will be around for even longer. Please do not wear a wife beater, V-neck, or crew-neck undershirt by itself with jeans.
13) Upgrade your shave - Even if all the threads are gold, unkempt beard can be an instant attraction killer. Achieve that perfect shave by adding a shave brush and old-fashioned double-edged razor.
14) Experiment with style – The only way you’ll really learn, is if you go out there and try new things. If you make mistakes, life goes on. So many guys are afraid to express themselves through their style, so don’t be one of them.
