The Limit Is Me...

One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written:

"Yesterday the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral in the room that has been prepared in the gym".

In the beginning, they all got sad for the death of one of their colleagues, but after a while they started getting curious to know who was that man who hindered the growth of his colleagues and the company itself.

The excitement in the gym was such that security guards were ordered to control the crowd within the room.

The more people reached the coffin, the more the excitement heated up. Everyone thought:"Who is this guy who was hindering my progress? Well, at least he died!"

One by one the thrilled employees got closer to the coffin, and when they looked inside it they suddenly became speechless. They stood nearby the coffin, shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul.

There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it could see themselves. There was also a sign next to the mirror that said:

“There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth: it is YOU.”

You are the only person who can revolutionize your life. You are the only person who can influence your happiness, your realization and your success. You are the only person who can help yourself.

Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your parents change, when your partner changes, when your company changes. Your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting beliefs, when you realize that you are the only one responsible for your life.

"The most important relationship you can have is the one you have with yourself"

 
Examine yourself, watch yourself. Don't be afraid of difficulties, impossibilities and losses: be a winner, build yourself and your reality.

The world is like a mirror: it gives back to anyone the reflection of the thoughts in which one has strongly believed. The world and your reality are like mirrors lying in a coffin, which show to any individual the death of his divine capability to imagine and create his happiness and his success.

It's the way you face life that makes the difference…

Before and After Photoshop

Dear Friends,

     This is another topic that I would like to share with all of you. I hope this will make you feel better because I am. I have always love myself. I love being me. I am not perfect but I am happy. So believe me some of our beloved celebrities are just like us. With cellulites, flabby, stretch mark, skin blemishes, etc. Don't feel bad when you're looking at their photo just remember the magic of PhotoShop. Let's share this with every of your friends.

Christina, Look nearer and you will see her flabby arms, cellulites on thighs and round tummy..

Christina Aguilera

Picture on the Left is before Photoshop- Look at her skin color and cellulites on thighs 

Britney Spears

Photo on the Left is after Photoshop: Do you notice the difference of facial complexion, rounder bust, waistline?

Brittany Murphy: Photo on The Left is After Photoshop, look at her real photo on the right.

Keira Knightly: Photo on the Right is after Photoshop

This one I honestly don't know who is she but the Photoshop really did a good changes on her. The real her is the photo on the right.

Nicolette Sheridan: Photo on the right is after Photoshop

Madonna: Look at the big difference. Photo on the Right is after Photoshop

Ok, enough for today. Until I found another interesting things to share with all of you. Thanks for reading.

Love Yourself the Way You Are

     I've been telling many people that I know, I told them to love themselves and just be who they are. I won't stop saying that and will keep repeating it over and over again as long as I live. However, it’s undeniable as we’re human being we all have weaknesses. Yes, I mean weaknesses!! Not one, two nor three but plenty of it.

 

 

 

     As for girls or women, we are easily being obsessed with beauty or more prone, our body… Why is that? At first I’m trying to decode some of my girl friends’ mind to know why they’re so obsessed with their bodies then I realize most time I heard the same answers. They referred the term beautiful, sexy, gorgeous, fabulous and other to celebrities or stars!! I mean real stars, those in Hollywood limelight.

 

     How many of us know Eva Mendez, Jessica Alba, Angelina Jolie, Halle Berry, Giselle Bundchen, etc. Aren’t they gorgeous… Yes they sure are but come on… I hold on one principle that beauty has no boundaries! It comes in every shapes, size and colors. We are all beautiful.

     By the way, do you know how much does these stars spent a year to maintain what they have? It can be up to tens of thousands of dollars! Big bucks right! No jokes, they have personal trainers, stylist, hairdresser, makeup artist, they took loads of supplements, they eat according to their dieticians suggested diets, they afford the best doctors and they use expensive skin care and makeup. You can’t blame them because they have to look good for us. It’s their career.

     Back to our stereotype definition of beauty, who actually set the standard of beauty to tall, slim, sharp nose, toned abs? I would easily answer, it's the media!! Media played the biggest roles in leading us to the worldwide distortion meaning of real beauty. Trust me, how many times we jaw dropped when we saw some celebrities photos on magazine covers, editorial spreads, internet and other? Do you know the magic of Photoshop? How Photographers sometimes joining 2 or 3 girls bodies to create one magnificent end photo? Also remember how lighting play such a big part in photoshooting. Finally, how do we define beautiful faces? I guess everyone have the answer for this question. Check the video below and you will have a little idea about what I'm saying. Enjoy....

     It is easy to first love and cherish ourselves the way we are. Then evaluate, if there’s anything you don’t like about yourselves, what would that be? Is it your size? Is it your weight? Or anything else.. What we can try to do is to improve it by eating right, make sure you’ve consume all the nourishment that the body need. Drink lots of water as this is good for your digestive system and skin. Try to workout to stay healthy and fit. What I know is, we’re using makeup to enhance our natural beauty and not to change our faces to look like someone we adore. It doesn’t work that way because we all gifted with special facial features.

      I know it is always flattering when you receive compliments from friends that you look good in certain way but remember don’t give in to any bad comments from people. Judge their words. Sometimes, frank people tell you the truth and they don’t care if they hurt you but think of it. Maybe slight changes for good are worth it. While some friends might try to compliment you even it’s not honest just because they do not want to hurt you. My thought, you know best. It is great to trust your guts sometimes. Be yourself! Your personality and clear heart matters the most. You’re beautiful..

 

Women Infidelity: More Damaging Than Men?

     It has always started as the old adage that “boys will be boys,” If somebody’s cheating in a committed relationship, it’s usually quickly assumed to be the man who’s doing the deed. However, this age, although I’m a woman too, I do not deny the fact that… “Hey! Women cheat too! and beware!! When they do, it’s often far more damaging to the relationship.

     While men in the other hand may simply cheat because they’re put in a situation where they can get easy sex and may have lowered inhibitions, women cheat for a new chance of love, to feel emotionally cherished, or because they’re convinced the relationship is finally over. They cheat with their heart, and because of that, female infidelity is far harder to recover from. Beware of that 'Cheating Heart'...

CNN Health reports:

In a committed relationship nothing hurts more, or is harder to recover from, than infidelity, and this is even truer when it’s the female partner who’s been doing the cheating.  In recent years I’ve noticed a precipitous rise in the number of men who have been betrayed by adultery, and while there’s an overall consensus among professionals that female infidelity is on the rise, the trend doesn’t garner nearly as much attention as male infidelity  That’s surprising, because female infidelity is often much more damaging to a marriage. Don’t get me wrong: Male cheating is definitely harmful. But when a woman fools around, it’s often the death knell to a couple’s relationship.

It’s often said that men cheat for sex, while women cheat for love, the theory being that men can more easily compartmentalize sex and emotion, while women typically need to experience an emotional connection to a person before feeling sexual desire. Without those pesky emotions to stand in the way of a potential mistake, a guy is much more likely to get himself into trouble (especially if alcohol is involved and inhibitions are down) or to get involved with someone for whom he has no feelings.

My Tips a.k.a. Cassie’s Tips: For any couple especially those who has been together for quite a period of time, either you’ve been dating for couple of years, engage to be married or has been married for years… Always communicate with your partner. Have crystal clear conversations; make sure your partner understood you at the end of the conversation.

There are so many things that people can do together to strengthen the bond. Men, please take care of your woman’s hearts. Always know that we are in need for emotional cares. Husbands, ask yourself, when was the last time you said something really nice to your wives (something about her) that makes her smile from her heart?

Most of the time, all that a woman wants is just for you to know that she’s there, she cares and she will always be there for you. It’s not hard to cherish our emotion needs. Back to basic, sometimes smallest gestures means abundance.

Hi everyone,


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The Path to Happiness

It seems like most of the people I know are happy—sometimes. I know very few people who claim to be happy all the time. Those who are always happy are often criticized for not paying attention to the world. There’s sickness and poverty and war. How can anyone be happy with all of the world’s problems? And everyone has his or her own problems, too.

Is real happiness only an illusion, something that we can grasp at for a few moment but never really hold? I don’t think so.

It is possible to be both aware and happy. So why are so many people unhappy? I think there is one reason for this. It’s their inability to accept a simple truth:

To be happy, all we have to do is accept the reality of things. Does this mean that to be happy we need to simply accept our lot in life and not work to change things? Absolutely not! What it means is that we can accept that things are as they are and we can work to make things even better. Let me give you some practical examples.

1. Imagine you are an employer looking to hire a new person. Two people have all the qualification for the job. Both are unemployed and for both, things are tough. Who would you hire: The person who is happy about being alive, happy about having an opportunity to get a job and happy about using her skills for you, or someone who is unhappy, angry and surly over his situation? You’d hire the happy person, of course.

2. Your boyfriend is late for your date. Would you have a better time with him if you’re happy that he’s there or if you’re angry that he’s late? Of course you’d both have a better time if you’re happy.

3. You see a co-worker treated unfairly at work. You can get angry and complain or you can be happy to suggest a system that can result in more fairness for everyone. The second way is far more effective.

Being angry, filled with stress, and feeling unhappy has been shown to negatively affect the body, mind, and spirit. Feeling happy and being filled with good cheer has a positive effect. The “bottom line” is that happier is better.

There are some things you can do to learn to live a happy life. Laugh every day. Find something to have a big belly laugh about every day. It can really help. Here are some suggestions:

1.      Communicate your needs. Some people get angry when someone doesn’t do something even though they didn’t tell that person what is desired. Don’t expect your children, friends, family, lover or spouse to do something—tell them. If you don’t tell them they won’t know.

2.      Accept people as they are. Don’t try to change people into something they aren’t. If you want them to do something differently, let them know what you want and need. Give them the opportunity to do things that will please you.

3.      Treat yourself well! Be kind to yourself. You deserve it. Give yourself a treat from time to time. Be as accepting of yourself as you are of others.

4.      Work for change with love. Don’t try to change something you feel is unfair because you hate the unfairness. Work for change because you love what can be.

5.      Share your smiles. People smile and are happy with people who give smiles. However, it’s important to really mean it when you smile. People instinctively know when you’re honest.

6.      Don’t expect instant change. People—including you—take time to change. Compliment people when they change in ways you’ve told them you’d like. Just laugh it off if they don’t.

Whether you’re often angry and unhappy or usually a happy person, it’s not a long distance to being happy every day. If you want it, you can have it. It’s just about accepting things the right way.

The Path to Happiness

It seems like most of the people I know are happy—sometimes. I know very few people who claim to be happy all the time. Those who are always happy are often criticized for not paying attention to the world. There’s sickness and poverty and war. How can anyone be happy with all of the world’s problems? And everyone has his or her own problems, too.

Is real happiness only an illusion, something that we can grasp at for a few moment but never really hold? I don’t think so.

It is possible to be both aware and happy. So why are so many people unhappy? I think there is one reason for this. It’s their inability to accept a simple truth:

To be happy, all we have to do is accept the reality of things. Does this mean that to be happy we need to simply accept our lot in life and not work to change things? Absolutely not! What it means is that we can accept that things are as they are and we can work to make things even better. Let me give you some practical examples.

1. Imagine you are an employer looking to hire a new person. Two people have all the qualification for the job. Both are unemployed and for both, things are tough. Who would you hire: The person who is happy about being alive, happy about having an opportunity to get a job and happy about using her skills for you, or someone who is unhappy, angry and surly over his situation? You’d hire the happy person, of course.

2. Your boyfriend is late for your date. Would you have a better time with him if you’re happy that he’s there or if you’re angry that he’s late? Of course you’d both have a better time if you’re happy.

3. You see a co-worker treated unfairly at work. You can get angry and complain or you can be happy to suggest a system that can result in more fairness for everyone. The second way is far more effective.

Being angry, filled with stress, and feeling unhappy has been shown to negatively affect the body, mind, and spirit. Feeling happy and being filled with good cheer has a positive effect. The “bottom line” is that happier is better.

There are some things you can do to learn to live a happy life. Laugh every day. Find something to have a big belly laugh about every day. It can really help. Here are some suggestions:

1.      Communicate your needs. Some people get angry when someone doesn’t do something even though they didn’t tell that person what is desired. Don’t expect your children, friends, family, lover or spouse to do something—tell them. If you don’t tell them they won’t know.

2.      Accept people as they are. Don’t try to change people into something they aren’t. If you want them to do something differently, let them know what you want and need. Give them the opportunity to do things that will please you.

3.      Treat yourself well! Be kind to yourself. You deserve it. Give yourself a treat from time to time. Be as accepting of yourself as you are of others.

4.      Work for change with love. Don’t try to change something you feel is unfair because you hate the unfairness. Work for change because you love what can be.

5.      Share your smiles. People smile and are happy with people who give smiles. However, it’s important to really mean it when you smile. People instinctively know when you’re honest.

6.      Don’t expect instant change. People—including you—take time to change. Compliment people when they change in ways you’ve told them you’d like. Just laugh it off if they don’t.

Whether you’re often angry and unhappy or usually a happy person, it’s not a long distance to being happy every day. If you want it, you can have it. It’s just about accepting things the right way.