This post I'm going to write about someone who is not so pleasant that I know. A person who keep defending herself saying she's so good this and that but when you know more, she is just a big hypocrite. I'm sorry if there are things I wrote here that is not so good or a little harsh about her. I will named her Doris. This is how it's all begin... I met Doris several months ago. Somewhere towards the end of last year. It happened in an eatery. I walked in to get some pastry in a local café and she was there laughing fairly loud (having a good time) with someone who know me, Tania. The two of them were talking quite loud and there were lots of laughter. Who won't notice because they sat right at the corner of the entrance. I walked pass by not bother to check on them. Anyway, it's feel good to see people having their great time. As I stood in front of the cake shelf, "Cassie, hello!! You're alone?" I turned my head towards that voice. It was Tania. Yes, I was alone there. I waived at her and say hold on. She smiled.. Just a couple of minute, I'm done so on my way out, I approached them just saying hi back to Tania and apologize that I did not notice her earlier. This lady besides her, gave me a "one of a kind" look. I can't interpreted that look but who really cares anyway. So Tania introduced us she said "Met my friend Doris.."
Well... Hi Doris! I don't know how that came out of her mouth "Hey! So beautiful ho!" If that was a guy, I would have roll my eyes and say jerk! I know that was a compliment but with her voice tone and the facial expression, it wasn't sincere, not even a tiny bit. I left and let them continue their good time. Exactly two days later I received a text message from Doris saying she got my number from Tania and asked when I'll be free that she wish to share something with me. Not to be rude, I replied her saying I'm not free this time around. Perhaps next time soon. She keep asking again and again then I asked her "What is it that you can't explain through phone by text messages or phone call? What is so secretive that I must go to see you for? I guess this offended her but it is entirely up to me to meet or not to meet anyone. Especially her, I'm not even comfortable with her from the first sight. Which I am very sure she won't click to me well. She's someone in her late 40s. Actually it's not about the age or look or anything but I found her irritating and annoying because she does not know how to talk properly to someone she just know yet she don't know when she annoyed someone.
It's getting too much almost like a harassment each time she sent a text messages. The few that I recalled, the messages from her including what is my marital status, how many boy friends that I have, what's my religion, if I believe in God and etc.. Come on!! What on earth is she doing. The one text message she sent that made me to call her back almost immediately was this one, I still have it in my phone. I type exactly the way she typed. Don't mind her language, she said she's Chinese educated, not so good with English. Her text message "You know how sinful you are? We human all have many sins. You make yourself beautiful so men will look. Bad sin when men look, you smile happy because you feel beautiful. Pray to God. Ask forgiveness. Look not important, brain important!" Jeez! At that very moment I imagine she was right in front of me. The 4 inch heels that I had on will certainly keep her only half of my height but of course body size, I'm slightly smaller than half of her. Sarcastically, I'm giving you the idea of how she looks like. Very voluptuous and perhaps only 4 foot 5 tall. Yes! That's her..
I called her but she did not pick up my calls few times. Lucky her I'm the type that forget quite easily. I do not get angry easily because angry is such a negative feeling. I want to keep myself positive because it's good for life. I know how the conversation will be if she actually pick up the call. Not that I want to pick a fight but I need to confront her like "Hey! What's your problem with me?"
Days goes by but one day, maybe few weeks later after that crazy text message from her, so happened that I bumped into Doris in a local mall. I saw her first, I waited there until she walked nearer. She didn't see me until when she was exactly in front of me. I haven't say a word and there she go again "What are you up to now?" OMG! Unbelievable, she is just so loud. Nearly like an ill-mannered person. I took a deep breath and just tell myself, that's just her. Let it. However, that was a good opportunity for me to ask her "Doris, do you have a problem with me? What is it? Honestly, I don't even know you."
Amazingly, I was supposed to be the angry one but she acted very wrong. She try hard to open wide her small eyes and it just burst from her mouth. We communicate in Mandarin of course but I'll translate it here in English so that all of us can read. She said "I hate girls like you! The tall, slim, long hair, pretty and perfect girl. People like you only acted sweet and gentle on the outside but inside, you are evil and arrogant. You look down and pick on people like me.." Just remarkable what she said. Without further saying anything, she walked away quickly. I saw her face flushing red in either anger or embarrassment. I don't want to pursue her. Let her go.
The thing she said to me gave me a long thought. I'm not a girl anymore, neither is she. For an instance from her words, I'm sure she was bullied especially at school and have a rough time in her adolescence year and this has built hatred in her heart to a species like us. She just marked "all the same".. That's not fair to me because I've not done anything to her. Let alone bully. I've never bully anyone in my entire schooling time. I was too busy with books, not bully.
Then, I have a soft feeling for her. Can't imagine how bad she went through her growing up time. We all know children are naïve. They say nasty things sometimes, teasing each other and calling people by their looks like "Nerd, Fat, Skinny, Giraffe, Midget and so much more. I know too that she has been struggling with weight issue all her life. Since that day, she stopped texting me but I did saw her somewhere few times. I just try to avoid her. What I can concluded is, she need peace with herself and isn't she supposed to move on with her life? She's 48 years old now. Those thing at school was many decades ago. Perhaps something had really scar and hurt her badly. So people, please take bully seriously. We will never know how bad it can impact one's life. Let's work together to stop bullying.
Well... Hi Doris! I don't know how that came out of her mouth "Hey! So beautiful ho!" If that was a guy, I would have roll my eyes and say jerk! I know that was a compliment but with her voice tone and the facial expression, it wasn't sincere, not even a tiny bit. I left and let them continue their good time. Exactly two days later I received a text message from Doris saying she got my number from Tania and asked when I'll be free that she wish to share something with me. Not to be rude, I replied her saying I'm not free this time around. Perhaps next time soon. She keep asking again and again then I asked her "What is it that you can't explain through phone by text messages or phone call? What is so secretive that I must go to see you for? I guess this offended her but it is entirely up to me to meet or not to meet anyone. Especially her, I'm not even comfortable with her from the first sight. Which I am very sure she won't click to me well. She's someone in her late 40s. Actually it's not about the age or look or anything but I found her irritating and annoying because she does not know how to talk properly to someone she just know yet she don't know when she annoyed someone.
It's getting too much almost like a harassment each time she sent a text messages. The few that I recalled, the messages from her including what is my marital status, how many boy friends that I have, what's my religion, if I believe in God and etc.. Come on!! What on earth is she doing. The one text message she sent that made me to call her back almost immediately was this one, I still have it in my phone. I type exactly the way she typed. Don't mind her language, she said she's Chinese educated, not so good with English. Her text message "You know how sinful you are? We human all have many sins. You make yourself beautiful so men will look. Bad sin when men look, you smile happy because you feel beautiful. Pray to God. Ask forgiveness. Look not important, brain important!" Jeez! At that very moment I imagine she was right in front of me. The 4 inch heels that I had on will certainly keep her only half of my height but of course body size, I'm slightly smaller than half of her. Sarcastically, I'm giving you the idea of how she looks like. Very voluptuous and perhaps only 4 foot 5 tall. Yes! That's her..
I called her but she did not pick up my calls few times. Lucky her I'm the type that forget quite easily. I do not get angry easily because angry is such a negative feeling. I want to keep myself positive because it's good for life. I know how the conversation will be if she actually pick up the call. Not that I want to pick a fight but I need to confront her like "Hey! What's your problem with me?"
Days goes by but one day, maybe few weeks later after that crazy text message from her, so happened that I bumped into Doris in a local mall. I saw her first, I waited there until she walked nearer. She didn't see me until when she was exactly in front of me. I haven't say a word and there she go again "What are you up to now?" OMG! Unbelievable, she is just so loud. Nearly like an ill-mannered person. I took a deep breath and just tell myself, that's just her. Let it. However, that was a good opportunity for me to ask her "Doris, do you have a problem with me? What is it? Honestly, I don't even know you."
Amazingly, I was supposed to be the angry one but she acted very wrong. She try hard to open wide her small eyes and it just burst from her mouth. We communicate in Mandarin of course but I'll translate it here in English so that all of us can read. She said "I hate girls like you! The tall, slim, long hair, pretty and perfect girl. People like you only acted sweet and gentle on the outside but inside, you are evil and arrogant. You look down and pick on people like me.." Just remarkable what she said. Without further saying anything, she walked away quickly. I saw her face flushing red in either anger or embarrassment. I don't want to pursue her. Let her go.
The thing she said to me gave me a long thought. I'm not a girl anymore, neither is she. For an instance from her words, I'm sure she was bullied especially at school and have a rough time in her adolescence year and this has built hatred in her heart to a species like us. She just marked "all the same".. That's not fair to me because I've not done anything to her. Let alone bully. I've never bully anyone in my entire schooling time. I was too busy with books, not bully.
Then, I have a soft feeling for her. Can't imagine how bad she went through her growing up time. We all know children are naïve. They say nasty things sometimes, teasing each other and calling people by their looks like "Nerd, Fat, Skinny, Giraffe, Midget and so much more. I know too that she has been struggling with weight issue all her life. Since that day, she stopped texting me but I did saw her somewhere few times. I just try to avoid her. What I can concluded is, she need peace with herself and isn't she supposed to move on with her life? She's 48 years old now. Those thing at school was many decades ago. Perhaps something had really scar and hurt her badly. So people, please take bully seriously. We will never know how bad it can impact one's life. Let's work together to stop bullying.
